My grandmother - very old fashioned. Like most probably.

My problem is, she is also racist, not to a harsh extent. She disagrees with having any other people in our country who aren't British, and she often makes comments about blacks, muslims, indians, whatever. Anyone who is here and is of a different race, religion or country she doesn't like. As far as she is concerned these people are taking over our country and that for her is a bad thing.

However, my uncle's wife is Indian and they are very close to her and she has accepted very well that my auntie is Indian and a very nice person.

My problem is, my wife is Moroccan. Now, for months I didn't tell her everything, I simply said I was seeing a girl in Morocco and she would always in her own try and change my mind about it, by saying "oh it's just a small romance, i'm sure you'll find a nice girl here soon" and this sort of thing. Anyway, obviouly once she found out things were more serious I showed her photo's of us together and everything and she seemed okay, but then made remarks to my mother behind my back.

I love my grandmother to bits but she a horrible person when she wants to be and I've had many an arguement with her. And I KNOW that she's not going to fully accept my wife until she meets her and see's how wonderful she is and how we are together, but that could be years away yet.

Anyone ever been in a similar situation? It's a damn nightmare, especially as the rest of my family are so happy for me.

Why not buy her something to sweeten her up a bit? Now let's see....oh yes! You could take her out for a BBQ at Boomers, or perhaps she's more into Chinese....no, on second thought, she probably isn't. Hey! I got it! Nothing quite like some cleverly crafted tune to sooth grandma's fevered brow...how about a music box!


.....B)

I wouldn't go as far as to say a similar situation, but a situation involving grandmother's....yes.

If you have tried to explain to your grandmother that it is not a race, an ethnic group, or a religion that she is hurting/bothering, it is you, and if after this she still continues such conversations, especially in your presence I would step past the argument phase. Tell her like it is: That you love Norah, and that she must be respected, and that your union with Norah must be respected.

Sometimes its hard for people to accept things they cannot see, but respecting them, especially for the sake of a grandson, should be easy.

My grandma and her sisters are like that, to an extent. Like they say colored instead of black. And sometimes my Aunt says the N word. I don't know how old your Grandma is Adam, but mine is 78, and my Aunt is 83. So what you have to think about is that for the majority of their lives that is what black people were called, and to them it isn't offensive. They are kind of odd towards people of other races too, again because for most of their lives there weren't any other races around. Just whites and blacks and that was during segreation, so they didn't really see any black people. I know that sounds weird. I don't think it's so much that they are racist, just that is what they know.
Now, EVIL grandma, Jason's Mom's Mom, is a different story. She is just evil, she hates everyone, and is a horrible horrible person. Being old is no excuse for her! Anyway, I just kill her with kindness, she can't stand it and has no idea how to act.
I think your Granmda will come around, she is just set in her ways, I really wouldnt' put to much into her saying that about finding a girl from around her. If she is like most grandmas (evil granmda excluded!) she just wants you to be happy and when she meets your wife and sees how nice she is and how you guys are together she will be ok with it!
Good luck!

wait a week or two -- bring home one of your male friends that she doesnt know --- inform her that you are gay and this is your new life partner ---- but say "look grandma, he's white and british" --- she'll accept Norah with open arms.


its a little bit brutal -- but desperate times call for desperate measures.

hope it helps ---- but it probably wont lol

Pick up the hockey stick... Use it.. USE IT

Wonderful all people who live by morals of yesteryear.

Time is probably the only thing they understand, give it a couple of years :)