okay well today my Ex of about two years ago calls me to tell me he is sry for everything he ever did to me. well this morning he calls me and tells me his new girl friend is mad/upset at him for talkin to one of his ex's...i mean its nothing like that...it could never really be nothing like that. ever again. yes i care for him but its just not the same anymore. he is like a good friend i never keep in touch with. and im sry for that. i guess what im really tryin to say...is do i stop talkin to him or do i carry on my friendship with him...I guess im the ex that messes everything and doesnt mean too or want to. the thing is that she is two hours north of here and she thinks he will cheat on her with me.

i dont really know how you can help me/him but maybe someone can. Thanks :pity: :(

I'm really not sure I understand the whole situtation, but I think you should always try to be friends with someone. If your ex wants to be more than that, then you should take that into deep though. I'm sorry if this didn't help.

When my ex and I broke up, we still talked for awhile. And now, theres this new guy that I like. He's not the type to get really jealous, but he always get thisweirrd look on his face whenever Josh(my ex) is mentioned in front of him. Even if I'm not the one that brought him up. Jon (the one I like now) and I aren't more than just friends, but most people know that I would jump at the chance to be more. Because of this, I feel kinda wrong talking to Josh still, so, since the two of us are still friends, I basically only talk to him on the net now. I haven't called him in about two weeks, and I find that easier for all parties involved...

All right, from what I gather, you're worried about his new girl's insecurities. Frankly, there isn't a damn thing you can do about them. The best bet? Let him contact you when he needs to, and just play it by instinct. If he's a friend, be there for him, if you don't want to talk to him, there are a host of ways to get off the phone. This way you're comfortable, he's calling when he's not going to get the girl too upset, and you can't worry about the new girl.

im not worried about her...im worried about his happiness... you know...and i cant talk to him on the net because well he is one of the few i know that doesnt have a computer...

Well, that certainly complicates things. Is there a way that you could meet her, without him being around? That way yall could talk about things (namely him) and you could show her she has nothing to fear. I've done that before. Only, I had my friend tell his girlfriend to call me and we ended up talking for about two hours. After that, she started calling just because we're friends now. But it helped that I had never liked her boyfriend in that way, even though he has professed to having a crush on me since the day we met.
Try talking to her without him around.

Ignore him.

In calling you the way he did, you ex may have something else in mind. He called you to apologize for earlier behavior. Why is his current partner upset about it? Obviously he told her. It was probably in the way that he told her that triggered some warnings in her head. What was his purpose in telling her he talked to you?

It's understandable that his current partner is upset; he's reaching outside their relationship. That threatens her in some way, whether or not it is real.

If you're not interested in him, don't take his calls. Don't try to communicate with his current girlfriend. That invites other problems and issues for her to worry over.

but he calls me form different numbers everytime...they broke and he cried...i told him there was nothing i could...i couldnt make him happy nor did i want too...i mean i would he want me back...i dont want him back...please and put myself though that hell no ill pass and save it for her.

Let me repeat my original advice and amend it somewhat.

Ignore him.

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Go shopping.

(not for a boyfriend, but maybe for some nice shoes or something pink)

crack head i dont wanna go shopping....no money...lol